I’ve been doing a lot of analysis and soul searching since I found out about my wife’s affair and the more I think about her behaviour, the less enamoured I am with her as a person. It’s not just the affair itself, it’s the behaviour since I caught her out and what that tells me about her.
The only conclusion I can reach is that she’s not a mature, responsible, competent adult but a child that has learned just enough to paint herself in a way that endears her to other adults that haven’t seen through her yet.
I asked her to write down what she had done a bit like a teacher giving a child a detention. What she came up with was a childish piece of fiction with more plot line defects than holes in swiss cheese.
For example, she expected me to believe that she used a vibrator that we had only used once and lost the charger for and not the much more expensive one that she used on a more regular basis. What was the motivation for such a lie? Was she scared I’d confiscate her favourite toy if she told the obvious truth? Or did she just know I’d see through it if she said she didn’t use a toy at all? An adult would have just recognised the game was up and admitted it!
Virtually everything she said was along the lines of yes, I did take some of the sweeties mummy but they didn’t taste good so please don’t tell me off.
The classic example of that was her describing her exploits of being “intimate” 3 or 4 times a day in his hotel room but sometimes she found it hard to orgasm as if that makes it better. No shit you would have found it hard, you’re normally asleep 5 minutes after one orgasm and complain that your body can’t cope with “intimacy” on consecutive days yet here you are getting your end away as many times as physically possible so don’t try to tell me that I should be comforted by the idea that you had to work harder to orgasm sometimes.
Honestly, if you think 50 shades of grey was written badly, Mandy’s 50 shades of lies was like a homage to a four-year-olds level of reasoning to extract herself from a vice of her own clamping.
Remember the context of this was supposed to be a truth amnesty where she was told that she could be forgiven as long as she met just one basic rule, that she started to tell the truth! Still she kept digging! The more unbelievable the lies, the more inclined I was to get to the bottom of the truth so I did, first by monitoring her comms with an app then by speaking to the third party directly and cross checking the lies!
Now she wants credit for telling the truth when there was literally nowhere to hide?
It was a relief for her once I talked to the other bloke and exposed her lies. It had all gotten way out of hand for her to deal with, she was unravelling and now the grown ups knew and could try to fix it for her, wiping away her crocodile tears.
It wasn’t just her lies that unravelled at that time, it was my respect for her too. She wasn’t the person I thought she was. I thought she was an adult but it turns out she’s just another incompetent woman, unable to deal with her feelings when tough things happen so instead she reverted to being a child! Chasing boys to make her feel better, then telling lies to get those boys into trouble afterwards.
Give me a real woman that has the emotional maturity to speak to her partner rather than going behind his back any day!
Rant Over 